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People always ask me why I am so happy now. Its simple, very very simple. I take control of my life now. I have decided what it takes to make me happy then I make decisions to get there.

Tell the truth and surround yourself with people that are ok with that.

To some people in my life who can’t accept the truth, I will not defend my words and actions to make them believe me. Believing myself is not my problem. In my last relationship, I spent so much energy trying to get him to see that I am an open book that it turned me into a person I didn’t like. I was continually trying to make him see that I am a genuine person without motives. If given the chance to see him, I can tell him to go to hell and shake hands with the devil!

Just so you know, this kind of life is not easy. I am just letting you know that you did something I dont like. People will have a hard time believing this. But again, that’s his problem. Look at it this way, “if you try to make other people’s ways yours then go ahead and sign up for unhappiness”.

As for me, I have reversed my frame of mind. I have thought of how to fend for myself like tapping into my latent ability to be a strong and independent woman.I put some gloss in my character and personality by my independence! I like myself better this way, and I gained self-respect more.

I see my kids so delighted also that I have carved a new life for myself.

Finally I feel like I am in control and I make the decisions who is in and out of my life.

~ by joan-emberga on November 16, 2008.